Be vulnerable, become powerful – alone or together?


Be Vulnerable, Become Powerful – Alone or Together?

This article is an extension to the previous « Be vulnerable, become powerful »

I’ve been asked whether there is a vulnerability process / hierarchy, various stages that appear one after the other; such as being vulnerable with myself first, then with selected people, then with everybody.

So I’ll try to answer the question! 😉

No “vulnerability theorist”

First of all, I’m not a “Vulnerability theorist”. 😉
I don’t invent theories and expecting one day they’ll be proven.
I speak here only about what I know, what I’ve experimented, what I’ve observed, and what sounds common sense to me.

The easy answer

“Are there any vulnerability hierarchy, stages?”
Why not?!
I know it’s a bit an easy answer. 😉
But, I tend to believe it all depends about the context.

The field reality

In the previous article, I spoke about a personal and internal process.
It’s because you do this process, this work for yourself that something different and then observable by others can appear. It’s an inside-out process.

Can you be vulnerable with others?
Really… why not?!
But, to be able to do that you probably need the context that allows this.
If you know or suspect that the other people will be judgmental, have poor listening skills, then you won’t feel comfortable sharing, and probably experiment disappointment, frustration and feel threatened.
As simple as that!

Maybe the question is “do you need to be vulnerable with others?”
It’s not always necessary to share.
Sometimes results speak for themselves and that’s enough!
However, sometimes, people might want to talk to you about what they observed. If there is a genuine request to understand, it might be really valuable to speak about your process. It can lead to reinforcing trust and mutual understanding.
You might even set a good example to follow – ever heard about leading by example? 😉

Imagine, you are in an authority position.

So, what you think, what you do has a great influence on others.

What do you think will be the consequences of speaking, in an appropriate manner, about the mental process you’ve done, the conclusions you came to and then what you will do next?

Do you think people will disvalue you?
Do you think people will disregard you?

Do you think it may lead to greater engagement?
Do you think it may lead to unleash collective creativity?
Do you think it may lead to strengthen cohesion?
Do you think it may lead to strengthen your relationships with people you love, live, work with?
Do you think it may lead to more authenticity?
Do you think it may lead to a more resilient organization?
Do you think it may lead to a corporate/organizational cultural change?
Do you think it may lead to more value creation?

Last reminder

You can’t force other people to be vulnerable with you.
It can happen only if there is the context for it:
a place, a space where being vulnerable is also a secured space.
If the conditions are not created, it won’t happen.
Fears and negative emotions will take the control.


About the author: Xavier BARILLER creates conditions, spaces where being vulnerable is also safe and from this facilitates the emergence of value creation.

1 Comment

  1. Isabelle on 9 July 2017 at 3 h 32 min

    This artclie is a home run, pure and simple!

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